Do Not Become a Part of the Hibachi Group

Have you ever been around people that exuded negative energy? We all have. You know, when you say "How are you doing?" and their response is something like, "Could be better" or "Ok, I guess". How long do you want to spend time with someone with that kind of energy?

Sadly many do and it perpetuates others to respond in the same manner.

For example:

Sally says; "How are you doing?" Mary responds; "Could be better.":( Sally replies: "Oh I hear ya!" Marry says: "Ya, I can't believe how bad the weather is!"

And the conversation continues with more and more "Woe is Me".

Now a 3rd person enters the conversation and is brought down as well and she buys in and adds to the negative talk.

I refer to this kind of situation as being a part of a 'Hibachi Group'. A hibachi is a small cooking grill typically made of aluminium or cast iron.

Let me tell you a story to explain.

A friend of mine was in the longest one-day sanctioned bike race in North America. The "LOTOJA" (abbreviated from LOgan, Utah TO JAckson Hole, Wyo.) traverses some 206 miles across Utah, Idaho and Wyoming. Instead of the much hoped for pleasant temperatures and tail winds, Mother Nature elected to deliver clouds, rain and yes, even snow over the grueling course.

Half way through the race, there was a pit stop where bikers could eat, drink and take a needed rest. During this stop, my friend noticed a group of bikers surrounding a small hibachi. They were huddled close to capture warmth from the small fire and as my friend got closer he could hear their conversation. They were discussing how challenging the ride was. Some were saying that is was too cold to continue. Others were agreeing and adding to reasons to give up.

As my friend heard how they were talking, he opted to stop approaching that group and backed away. Got back on his bike with a fellow biker and they finished the race.

What happened to the bikers in the "Hibachi Group"? Not one finished.

There is power in thoughts. There is power in language. There is power in who you surround yourself with. There is power in how you respond. Go for the power in avoiding Hibachi Groups when possible. And if unavoidable, choose to lift people up and don't buy in to the negative energy. You and those around you will be far better off...:)

Make it a great day.

Donna

Donna Stewart
Helping Families Achieve Their Goals since 1999!
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